Monthly Archives: July 2021

New Cut

I tried for years to get the right start on dreadlocks. I admired those who had long ones, and always wanted some of my own. In September of 2020, a few months after we moved to NC, I was able to find a local guy to give me a good start. Though my experience wasn’t great on a personal level, his skills were unmatched anywhere else.

Then, in March of 2021 I got human hair extensions added by a different person, a traveling loctician. She made my dreadlock dreams come true. Long, beautiful dreads and I was thrilled with them. Though, I must say, there was admittedly some adjustment to be made. It was hard to drive without my hair getting stuck between me and the seat. It was hard to sleep on “a pile of ropes,” and the weight of them, especially during washing, was crazy! But after a couple of months I was basically used to all of that. It would have been an easier adjustment if I’d just let them grow long on their own.

In May, my hair started to get the slight smell of wet dog. But I had been staying with a friend with several dogs, so I really didn’t think anything of it. However over the next month, the smell got worse and worse, until it wasn’t just a wet dog smell anymore. I asked around in Facebook groups of people who had had dreads for a long time. I took the advice of a few. I did soaks in baking soda. I did ACV rinses. I used different shampoos. I made sure to dry them faster. The smell WOULD NOT improve.

So I made the difficult decision to brush them out. I cut them where the extensions were added and planned to brush from there. I could see when I cut that there was mold in the middle of about 1/3 of the dreads I had. Once I had gotten that far I washed again and was just going to brush out my natural hair. But the knots were so tight and matured that it was next to impossible. Not to mention there was still mold further up into my hair. So I found the new growth at my roots and just cut there. Which left 2-3” of hair left.

I went to a salon and asked them to even out all of my hair to the same length since I’m not skilled at cutting my own hair. Naturally, when my hair is short it all likes to just stick straight up. I looked like a puff ball!! I hate that.

So today I went and got my hair styled. I have basically a mohawk, that will turn into an undercut pixie as it grows out. Of all the different things I’ve done with my hair, I’ve never tried this style. And I actually LOVE it! I’m considering adding some bright colors too, but I haven’t decided yet.

I’m sad to lose the dreadlocks, but this cut feels good too!

My advice for those wanting dreads (and for myself possibly in the future):

• Let them grow out on their own. Extensions really aren’t necessary.

• Dry them either in the sun and wind, or with a blow dryer, not just indoor air dry.

• Don’t use wraps! They hold soooo much more moisture!

Rebuilding Wish List

Since it is quite clear that we are not receiving the things that the moving company stole from us (which was EVERYTHING except what we brought in our suitcases and our van), I have started an Amazon wish list to rebuild our home. If anyone feels like helping us out with this, we would be eternally grateful.

To check out our wishlist, click here.

We’re Home!

I never imagined myself living in a mobile home. And I certainly never imagined myself being excited about moving my family into one. However, the mobile home park is one of the places we applied to when our big Iowa house fell through in May. I wasn’t excited by the prospect, but I applied there and a few apartments, since no houses were to be found. As previously mentioned, we moved into an apartment in May after being immediately approved. We moved our few belongings in, and then got our approval for the mobile home. I declined the mobile home at that time because we had just moved into the apartment, but I knew it wasn’t permanent.

While living in the tiny, shitty apartment, Jarrod and I did some serious discussion of future plans. He had been talking about how much he’d love to travel to follow certain bands and musicians, and I had previously (years ago) brought up the idea of tiny living. At that time we wanted a large main house and tiny homes for all the teenagers. But we never went anywhere with the idea. And now that all the teens are going their own ways for the most part, we recognize that we don’t necessarily need a big house, or a lot full of tiny homes. So bringing the wanderlust and tiny living idea together, we looked in RVs and other such ideas. But ultimately we decided to convert a retired school bus into a mobile tiny home.

Then, while visiting someone in their mobile home, I realized how claustrophobic it felt to me. With the long, narrow layout design. At that moment I realized living in a bus would not work for me if I couldn’t feel comfortable in a mobile home. So I decided to make a decision to get myself adjusted. I talked to Jarrod about going back to the mobile home community and accepting the one that was offered to us.

The community manager told me it was no longer available, but that there were other options available. So Jarrod and I went out and toured 3 homes. The first was brand new but very small. The bedrooms were tiny. There was not room for us all. The second was used and smelly, but spacious. She said there would be a lot of work that would go into it before we could move in. The third was brand new AND spacious. But it had pending applications. We knew better than to get our hopes up, but made it very clear that we wanted the third one. It was just a matter of time to see if the other applications were approved, knowing we were already preapproved.

The outside, before it was ready for us.

The next morning I got an email saying we had been approved for home number three! It was everything we wanted. Brand new. Spacious. A beautiful kitchen with an island. And on the edge on the community with lots of greenery in the back. We were thrilled!! We ditched the apartment and moved within just a few days. That’s the only time I’ve felt thankful to not have much – because it didn’t take a lot of effort to move everything.

As of today, July 3rd, we’ve been in our new home for 5 days. It’s comfortable, clean, and OURS. We are renting, but plan to purchase. There’s a purchase program available that we will qualify for after 6 months. We don’t know what it will take to do so, but we’d like to move it to a private property in the future instead of a mobile home community. This will be a long-term home for us.

The kitchen and living room, before and after move-in.

Over the next several years (3-5) we also plan to work on finding, purchasing, and converting a school bus. That way we can have a homebase, and a fully functional home to travel in.

And since I know people want an update on our stuff caught up with the moving company: WE STILL HAVE NOT GOTTEN OUR STUFF BACK. At this point I truly don’t believe we ever will. I continue contacting them and trying to get an answer. They always say they’re working on it. And nothing more. It’s very hard letting go of all the sentimental things we’ve lost. I’m doing my very best to embrace it and see it as a fresh start.

We may have had a very large share of issues this year, but things are finally starting to settle down. With the stability, safety and security of a permanent home, near our loved ones, we can now focus on enjoying life and planning for our future. And to that I say CHEERS! 🥂