North Carolina has many things to do that Iowa does not. One of those things (and likely my favorite), is BEACHES!! I adore trips to the ocean. Since we had been through weeks, or even months of planning, and a long, stressful move, Jarrod and I decided to treat ourselves and the family to a trip to the beach for some fun before resuming normal life. It just so happened to be Memorial Day weekend, which we weren’t trying to celebrate necessarily. But we went anyway (except Evan, who decided not to join us).
It is a 2-hour drive from our home to get to the closest beaches. We drove straight there and found a decent parking spot after a bit of driving around looking. We spent about 3 hours in the water. The beach flag was red, so the water was pretty rough. But we all had a blast! It was exactly what we needed.
Also, this was Felix’s first trip to the ocean. Lots of pictures, but I’ll share only a couple here.
In the last four weeks a lot has happened with Felix. Just four weeks ago, he wasn’t even trying to get himself around. He would scoot a little bit, maybe roll here and there, but that’s it. Then, he started doing the army crawl, where he was pulling himself around by his forearms. For the past couple weeks he’s been full-on crawling on his hands and knees!
For the past 3-4 days he has been pulling himself up into a stand both in his crib in the mornings and during play times in the playroom. Also at that time he started babbling at last! He’s become very focused on the exersaucer and all the things he can do with the different toys. He’s working hard on making his hands work.
And today he took a couple of self-assisted steps! This boy is taking off in development all at once. Jarrod and I are so very proud of him!
The life of [this] SAHM: take care of baby. Clean. Attempt (and fail) to maintain order with the teens, clean some more, take care of baby, cook, clean, take care of baby, pass out before cleaning is done (because baby doesn’t nap), repeat, daily.
Do I want to spend time with my husband? Sure… we sleep next to each other. Does that count?
Do I want to watch a TV show or movie? Sure… I read captions when I’m able to look up at the TV, and half listen to the rest through crying, talking, loud toys, gaming, and YouTube videos on cell phones.
Do I want to have a relaxing shower? Yeah… I get 5 minutes while the baby plays on the floor or while my husband is getting ready for work in the morning. Or in the middle of the night if I want to sacrifice sleep.
Do I want to eat a meal? Well yeah… I quickly shovel in whatever is baby safe for sharing while the baby is also eating, or while he’s playing or asleep for the night.
Do I want to have a date night? Hell yes…. perhaps when the baby is old enough to have a sleepover with a school friend (in years).
This is my station in life.
Some days I wonder where I am in all of this. When do I get to fulfill some dreams or do what I want? But… I adore my family. I love my husband. I love my kids. And I wouldn’t trade them for the world.
We made it! Felix is a year old! He has grown and changed so much since he was born. For the first six months of his life I didn’t think we’d make it to this day, but we sure did. Nowadays, Felix is a very busy boy. He is working very hard in physical therapy, building up those muscles that it takes to crawl and eventually walk. He crawls a little bit at a time once or twice per day, so he DOES know how. But he finds it easier and faster to army crawl on his belly to get to what he wants. He likes to use his walker toys to pull himself up onto his knees or his feet. But he’s not at all steady on his feet yet. I am excited for him to learn how to use his body in these ways, but I am in no hurry. He’s moving on his own timeline and I’ve finally come to a place of acceptance with that. He’s healthy and happy and that’s what matters the very most.
Felix is still breastfeeding, though less these days. He eats breakfast, lunch and supper with the family, mostly eating what we eat. He still has some purees and softer foods because with his motor delays, he has some delays in how he eats as well. But its getting better every day. He loves bath time…. in fact I think anything involving water is his favorite! He splashes and crawls around in the tub. And when I take him to the pool at the local YMCA, he is very excited and kicks and splashes the whole time! His other favorite part of the day is breakfast time with mommy and daddy before work.
I don’t want to jinx anything and say everything is on track with sleep… because nothing is perfect. But for the time being things have improved. In general he’s sleeping more at night, but still never took up napping. I’ve accepted that as well, and quite enjoy him being awake and keeping me company during our days. He’s so fun, smiley, and really likes helping me do household chores and having me play with him in his playroom. He also has a couple of friends for play dates now.
Some things coming up for Felix: he had an eye exam and they found he needs glasses. Hopefully that will help inspire him to keep working on crawling. We’re hoping if he can see further and more clearly, he will want to explore his surroundings more. Also, when he stands, he has a tendency to turn his feet over and stand on his toes and the tops of his feet with his toes curled under. The PT says that is what some kiddos do for stability, though it is terribly counter-productive. So he’s getting SureSteps (braces) for his feet that will go with shoes and help create the habit of standing on his feet properly. He is expected to need them for only about 6 months, since he’s so young. Also, since we’ve been working so hard on large motor skills, we’re going to get new evaluations for fine motor skills and feeding. He’s making wonderful progress, so we expect a little extra help will help him get caught up all the quicker.
This has been a challenging, but exciting year. I’m very happy with how far we’ve come, and where we are now. I’m excited to see what the next year brings and beyond. Felix has become such a wonderful little boy. I don’t know what I’d do without him.
Felix had his birthday party on Sunday, February 2nd… 2 days before his birthday. It was a BEAUTIFUL February day, at 50 degrees! Finally, a day people were able to show up! Attendees included me and Jarrod, of course, all 6 of his older siblings, both of his grandmas, Akasha, Vincent, Earl, Amber & Amber, and Nate. He had a pirate/sea creatures theme going on, with lots of fun decorations, a cake for sharing, and a smash cake just for Felix. Grandma Connie brought her awesome ham and cheese sliders for guests, and cheesy potatoes. We also had punch and chips for everyone.
Felix had an awesome day! He didn’t get grumpy at all despite not being able to have a nap at his usual time. He REALLY got into his smash cake, and enjoyed every gift he received. Nearly a week later, he’s still enjoying his new toys. Jarrod and I consider this party a HUGE success for Felix. He definitely enjoyed his day and all the attention.
Thank you to everyone who helped make Felix’s big day a memorable one!