Birthdays

On May 6th, Andy, my first baby turned 17! We didn’t have a party this year for him, for the first time ever, but he got a few small gifts and cake and ice cream, after making him a supper of his choice (pancakes). He’s about to start his senior year of high school this fall. I plan to take his senior photos myself sometime this summer. Time really has flown by with him! He is the only one who was my “only child” for the first 2 years of his life. And it’s hard to face that he’s almost all grown.

Yesterday, July 1st, my 2nd baby, Evan turned 15. He’s living with his dad now, but he asked to come spend the night with me the night before his birthday. I had cancelled plans for his party when he moved out, but we ended up with a very small impromptu party after all, with just one friend and my mom invited. He got a couple gifts, and had cake and ice cream after we grilled burgers and hot dogs for lunch. It ended up being a pretty fun day, and I really enjoyed his visit. I really do miss having him at home full time, but this arrangement seems to be working much better for us all. And I get to see him whenever he or I want.

Cory’s 14th birthday is in the first part of August. I am focusing all the party-planning energy on him this year, because he usually doesn’t have a big party after his brothers take all the attention. So there will be another post for his party after it happens.

Also, Autumn turned 14 in March. She has gotten her driver’s permit and completed driver’s ed already! And Willow turned 12 in April. They both live with their mom and were at their mom’s for their birthdays.

School Is Out

It’s officially summer for the kiddos!

Andy just finished his junior year in high school. He’s been messing around so much that he is not on track for graduation with his class, so he starts credit recovery with the start of his senior year. He can either go to the alternative high school to finish up, or he can take extra online classes in addition to his full classload. But he must pass everything. He’s fully capable of passing, even with exceptional grades. He’s just not willing to put in the work. I’ve been having conversations with him about it quite a bit, and I’m hoping at least some of it is sinking in. Also, I’m requiring him to get a job this summer. He’s 17, and it’s time for him to start preparing for adulthood. I can’t believe I have a baby who is nearly an adult!

Evan spent most of his school year at Orchard Place, where he refused to do much school work at all. When he came home he did very, very well for about a month, until I expressed how proud I was of him. Then he stopped doing work and eventually got expelled for the remainder of the year with the option of finishing online. He didn’t take that option, so he will now be required to repeat his freshman year. It’s really too bad because he proved he’s capable of getting As and Bs. He just refuses to do it, for whatever reason. It may be a part of his mental illness. Or it may just be defiant adolescence. Or both. But I sure hope he can pull himself out of it.

Cory finished his 7th grade year! He was trailing behind on a couple of classes until the day before the last day. He and I sat down and I told him (for the millionth time) that he is nearly 14, not 6, and he needs to start being responsible for himself. And that the only one he’s hurting by not doing his work is himself, and he was about to have to repeat 7th grade. He pouted for over an hour, then got some work done that night. The next and final day at school he was able to find the motivation to get caught up.

Zoey, Autumn and Willow all did much better than the boys, as they don’t avoid their schoolwork, and are all moving onto the next grade.

The boys definitely had a lot of struggles with school this year, but we made it through. Here’s hoping next year isn’t quite the struggle for them… and congrats to the girls for doing well!